Dear Debra, My partner and I travel often for work and pleasure, and while we are great traveling companions, we disagree on how to converse with the people we meet. When traveling internationally, specifically to poorer countries, is it condescending not to ask your taxi driver if he’s ever been to the U.S. (thus […]
Small Talk
She Said WHAT? Ten Things Not to Say at the Thanksgiving Table.
Two topics seem to dominate the morning shows during Thanksgiving week: what is the most fattening thing on the table and how to create the most decadent holiday menu. Is it just me, or does it seem counterproductive to dish on the heart-attack-inducing fat and calories in sausage stuffing while also talking about how […]
Talk Tyrants and Their Victims | A Small Talk Series | The Interrupter
Beware: There are small talk criminals lurking everywhere. The coffee shop, your kids’ school, the gym, the office, the dinner party. These brazen bullies strike quickly and without warning – and they don’t care who they hurt. My ongoing series, Talk Tyrants, serves two purposes: it allows you the chance to escape the attack […]
The Evils of Email – Yet Again. Why Email Can Be Our Worst Enemy.
I’ll say it again: email can be evil. Emailing in the heat of the moment is like taking four shots of whiskey and starting a bar fight – you think it’s a good idea until 30 seconds later when you are in way over your head and regretting your last move. And let’s not forget […]
Banish the Boo – Why Booing is Bad News Any Time of Year.
I was at a sporting event recently and overhead several fans using what my mother would call “colorful language.” It happens. It happens so often in fact that a reader of mine wrote to me about how to deal with the foul language of others and I wrote a blog offering some […]
What To Say When Someone Loses a Child
I can’t imagine losing a child. I don’t want to think about it. Ever. I am not one to lump all of the human race into one big group, but I hope I speak for most when I say that the death of a child seems unimaginable. Christina Boyer experienced such a loss and writes […]